I just wanted the “All words start with the letter T”, but the general idea is still good.
February 20th : The Grand Parade of Desire
“Robbers, perverts, killers, and tyrants – gather for your inspection their so-called pleasures!” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 6.34
Pay a critical eye to the pleasures you allow yourself. Look closely at those who have allowed themselves those pleasures : are they really examples you want to model your life around? What might be harmless now can lead you down a slippery slope. Keeping in mind where this can lead helps put these pleasures in context. At the very least, it can help enhance moderation.
Reflect on opportunity cost : the cost in time, money and energy. All these resources are finite, and you could be spending them on things that are dearer to you. You end up with momentary happiness, and accomplishing nothing you are proud of.
The deepest regrets you hear of are more often related to inaction. Trying something and failing will hurt, but you at least are left with lessons that can allow for growth. Doing nothing risks nothing, and brings nothing.
What black holes (video games, partying, drugs, objects of lust) in your life are taking resources away from your potential?
February 21st : Wish Not, Want Not
“Remember that it’s not only the desire for wealth and position that debases and subjugates us, but also the desire for peace, leisure, travel, and learning. It doesn’t matter what the external thing is, the value we place on it subjugates us to another…where our heart is set, there our impediment lies.” – Epictetus, Discourses, 4.4.1-2; 15
Tl;dr : What we desire makes us vulnerable.
Interestingly enough, I find that often times, when we stop trying hard, we end up with exactly what we wanted in the first place.
Who is attracted to somebody who feels desperate?
How many sprinters have gotten injured from trying to hard?
Who ever found happiness by actively looking for it?
re: MVP shake for Max
The most addictive form of reinforcement is the random one. Think of slot machines. You never know when you’ll get your next high. Maybe this next round will be The One. Think of that when giving praise.
There is a special level of learning you get from peaking. Doing something you’ve never done before is a unique stimulus, and one with great teaching potential. For dragon boat, this probably explains my accelerated growth in the sport. Definite implications here regarding roster rotations. Put a low-level intermediate paddler in the top boat, because what better place to understand boat feel than a team that already has it.
Bonus : potential big motivation boost. What’s more exciting than feeling what real speed feels like? Anybody who’s been on the national team in dragon boat knows what I mean.